April 29, 2016
This morning I read the letter ‘Y’ of the A – Z challenge. My friend was talking about how her husband’s health isn’t the greatest and how he will awaken at night screaming about how bad he feels.
This was my comment:
Hey Lillian (not her real name)
I know just how he feels. I’ve fought weight issues for a very long time a finally realized this morning….yep today….that fighting doesn’t work. Both he and I need to learn that fighting our body just doesn’t work. We need to ask it what it wants and then slowly start giving it to it. If we move too fast our system doesn’t trust us so both John and I need to be gentle with ourselves.
It seems that whenever we want something be it simple like an icecream cone or complicated like buying a house we fight against the very thing we want.
Oh the icecream has too many calories or we’d never get a mortgage because of our ages and income. So, guess what. No icecream and no house.
We end up depriving ourselves of the very thing we want by fighting against it instead of finding a way to love the idea and us.
So stop already yet! Find a way to have w hat you want without going overboard.
It’s not always easy but if you step back and consider even for a few minutes quietly or talking things over with your significant other…don’t have one? talk to the dog or cat. They’ll listen.
Solution…..have your icecream in smaller dish and use a smaller spoon than you normally would.
As for the house. Maybe look for a fixer upper or even a mobile or manufactured home. Most of them now are pretty nice.
My husband and I were looking for a new place to live back in February. We never dreamed we’d end up buying our own little mobile home. It’s not fancy but it has a fairly large extension on one side completely done (insulation, wiring…the whole bit).
We are both creative and he is a great fixer upper so we know that we can make it what we want with mostly sweat equity and some ingenuity. We also have friends ready and willing and able to assist.
So…..don’t fight against what you want…..figure out how to get at least close to the goal and then go for it. You just never know where a bit of stepping back and looking at the bigger picture will take you.
Happy dreaming, planning and succeeding.